SAFETY ALERT: Computer use can be monitored and is impossible to completely clear.  If you are in danger, or feel you are being monitored, please use a safer computer.



  • Think about who might let you stay with them or lend you some money.
  • Always try to take your children with you or make arrangements to leave them with someone safe.
  • Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, and some clothes with someone you trust.
  • If possible, open a savings or checking account in your own name to establish or increase your independence.
  • Keep the Safe Shelter phone number close at hand. (701-251-2300)
  • Review your safety plans with a domestic violence advocate who can help you plan the safest way to leave.
  • Please be very careful when you leave. It can sometimes be the most dangerous time.


You have the right to be safe in your relationship:
physically, emotionally, and sexually.